Jim

So, here is a question I have never felt the need to ask anyone else? I will accept 200-300 replies over any period of time you feel necessary.

If, you were able to enact changes in Jim, with a wave of the wand, knowing what is important to me and what is not. What would you fix? Be clear. Be specific. And provide, if possible a rubrik or syllabus on the way you believe I would be able to accomplish this. If you think it is not important to me but should be...say it, and if possible why. If it is important to me, but holds no real value, say it, and explain if possible. Ready GO!

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  1. justingApril 16, 2020 at 4:19 PM

    Thinking about this topic, I often ask myself when performing the same self assessment, "What would the best person I know think I need to work on?" It seems to be a definitive starting point that allows me to address the topic head on. That being said, I would recommend a better identification of who that person may be. If it is me, well then you're already off to a bad start ;)

    Jokes aside, I will offer my opinion and you can take it with a grain of salt, as I think you should because it is in fact merely my opinion. One area I think we can both dedicate our attention to is "humility in our own perspectives." I think that often times, you and I spend a great deal of time developing an opinion or an understanding on something and it becomes THE WAY. However, if there is one major lesson you have taught me, it is that it is all about perspective. Now, in our case I do not think it is an unwillingness to hear another perspective and understand it, or maybe even make it our own. I think where we fall short is seeing another perspective and immediately discrediting it because it does not aline with our own. Yes, if we had a discussion with the person, we could maybe better understand their view point. What I am more addressing is our initial gut reaction when we see someone act or carry out their perspective in a specific way.

    I'm assuming an example would help to clear up my rambling. Lets take something that I often struggle with, the college drop out. My initial gut reaction whenever I identify a drop out is to think what you likely think, "Try Harder." But how do I know that I understand their perspective or better yet that it is not the right one? Everyone has daily life experiences that shape who they are, maybe those experiences shaped them into someone not ready for college life. Maybe those are almost the exact same experiences we went through but we somehow were still able to complete our goal. Does that mean we are right and they are wrong?

    I think at the end of the day, while it is important to be ANALYTICAL of others, we must not let that turn into being CRITICAL of others. We do not know what they are dealing with, or have dealt with, and we certainly do not know how that affects them as an individual. I think you and I often think if A=B and B=C then A=C. If I have had difficulties but could still do it, then so can you. And if this one thing affected me in this way, then it should affect you the same. But I think that can be a dangerous perspective to have. It is saying that the way we view things is Better or more correct than the way you view it. Who are we to criticize the way someone reacts to an event or experience?

    I do not want you to think that this post is brought up because of the individual we can both relate with/identify in regards to my example. That was just the first thing to come to mind. I think this is a concept that applies to everyone we interact with. Stand by on my thoughts on correcting such areas, but feel free to provide your thoughts on the topic.

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